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This is just a little rant. I'm so grateful to have you all as some of my best friends and I've learned how good it is to talk with good Christian friends.

I emailed a resume to a job opening and I got a call within a couple of hours for an interview the next morning. That in itself floored me because this had not been like my prior experience in this hellish economy. So, the interview went well enough, I was certainly well qualified for the position, but it was with the human resources director who was only screening as my job is technical and she admitted she was not in a position to discuss specifics of the job. The next step would have been with the outgoing Controller, who I would be replacing and the owner, who I would be working for directly. This was on a Friday and I was told I'd be called late Monday afternoon about a second interview and that the Controller was leaving the state so they would be making a hiring decision very soon.

I'm hyper aware of facial expression, body language, and tone of voice. I understand this is typical for people who have the kind of childhood background I have as it's about survival. It's one of the reasons I have a hard time in internet forums because I just can't really tell what's going on some of the time because I can't see you and I don't have enough data and I'm not inclined to trust just the words somebody says. Anyway, I felt that I had at least made it to the next level or would certainly be hearing one way or another from that woman. I had greeted her as she approached me from the front, followed her to her office, and sat across from her during the interview. At the end, she got up and stood behind me at her door while I was still seated reaching down for my purse and leather portfolio that I carry resumes and notepaper in. When I turned around and stood up, she had a bad look on her face.

My most recent skin cancer surgery, four months ago, was on the top of my head. I have short little hairs sticking straight up, a big scar, and the ends of the dissolvable stitches they told me would be gone by now are sticking out of my skin.

Did she see the top of my head? I'm sure she did. Did she think I just had brain surgery? I don't know.

I sat waiting for the phone to ring for days. Girls have good practice at this. I had a smokin' hot mess of a migraine but didn't take any meds because I was afraid I'd fail a urine drug test if I was offered the job. I did everything right: I told her I was very interested in the job as we parted and I emailed her a brief note thanking her for the interview.

No phone call. No email. No letter. No nuthin'.

Did skin cancer cost me the job? I will never know.

I know God has a perfect plan for me and it is unfolding perfectly, but sometimes it hurts.

This whole thing has been bugging me and I thank you with all of my heart for reading this and being my friends and understanding. I feel better now.

Thanks for trusting us with your rant, dear sister. If I were in your shoes, I'd be wondering exactly the same thing.

I don't think your suspicions are especially realistic, but that's easy for me to say, isn't it?

You can imagine the second-guessing that I go through at job interviews, both before and after!

We love you bunches. Certain peeps can criticize this forum, because they're perfect, like the priest and the Levite. But they can't spoil the wonderful closeness God has given us!

This forum is a gift from God!

If there's one place you can come to rant, it's here!

In your situation, I'm sure I'd be second-guessing to the point of over-thinking why I didn't hear back.....I'd wonder the same thing as you are, no doubt.

I would hope it wasn't skin cancer that cost you the job, but if it was, as HAI said, you wouldn't want to work there anyway.

God has something better for you, no doubt!

Having had some key experience with interviews, both being interviewed myself for new positions and also conducting them to find new staff, the first thing I would say is if they didn't communicate back to you in the time frame they gave you then it is probably a tell-tale sign of the type of company they are, and probably not worth working for, or it's a sign of that particular person who did the interview and she isn't worth working with!

I can't stand slack communications in the workplace, it's one of the top reasons why mistakes are made and why co-workers get frustrated with eachother. One would think with all the technology we have now it would be quick & easy to make a phonecall, send an email, a fax, or even a text, but people are slack, people are lazy, people forget...

Sister Lynne, try not to fret about what the reason is for them not getting back to you, there could be a multitude of reasons that havn't even entered your mind. I was discussing an interview with our Human Resources Manager last Friday that he conducted that morning, and he said the guy was well qualified, has plenty of experience, but his problem was that he was too interested in the prospects of promotion, and we want a person who will be content working in the job advertised! That guy won't get a second interview, but do you think he'll be thinking he won't get the job for the reason I mentioned? Likely not.

Once uopn a time I was in between jobs, I applied for about 15 positions within 1 week, I only heard back from 6 of them, went to 5 interviews and only heard back from 3 of them, didn't get a job but ended up securing one through another means. My point is that not hearing back from job applications & interviews is a common practise, and I dislike it, but I learned to accept it and decided that those who chose to rudely ignore me probably aren't worth my time of a second interview anyway!

(11-20-2010 04:32 PM)Here Am I Wrote: [ -> ]I know I'm probably a miserable comforter, but what I've written was what was on my heart, and it is offered with love.

You're a wonderful comforter!

Jesus was with me during the whole thing and I absolutely know there was a good reason. I can't tell you why exactly, but I have a strong feeling, as does my dh who mentioned it completely independently, that they might have been a Mormon company. Mormons are generally sweet folk and I've heard they're good employers, but I'd have had trouble in my heart. Of course, if God had wanted me there, that's exactly where He would have put me.

Since I'm a child of God, whatever the reason was, it was a good one. Beauty!

Thanks Laura and Kiwi! I'm smiling and feeling warm in my heart. I love y'all.

Quote:In Canada, when you become unemployed. one of the conditions of recieving benifits is that you take a course in Job interviews, on of the skills they teach you is ( The Call Back ), you phone them so they know your interested in the Job, also write them a thank you letter so if they did hire someone other than you and that person doesn't work out, you will be the first person they will call on.

Hope that helped, and by the way Lynne I admire your strength.

Thanks! But I have no strength, it all belongs to God. Without His strength I'd be dead or dead drunk or at my very best, I'd never leave the house.

The unemployment people here in Arizona do the same thing. I've got over 30 years of progressive experience in my field and I've reached what would be considered a "top" position. They told me to only show the last 10 years on my resume and take the date off of my college graduation because I looked too old on paper, but I didn't look all that old in person. Well, I had my last job for 10 years so if I only showed that, it would look like I sprang fully formed out of the head of Zeus. I talked it over with people here in the forum and came to the conclusion it is best to be honest and tell the truth. So I disregarded that particular advice of the Arizona unemployment office. I hope they're not reading this!

I do know my husband and I didn't hear back from a potential employer (years ago) and we had another interview to go to.We got a surprise when one evening two phone calls happened offering us the job,we had given up on that first one.We didn't take that one.
It can happen that you will hear back from them yet Lynne,but even if you don't you know it was not anything you did to shoot yourself in the foot as it were.
If your surgery wound put this person off then so be it,something good is waiting for you.